Wow I am very lucky I have this rather
lovely gift which I really appreciate every day and my gift is that I can work
out what’s wrong with someone in 3 or 4 minutes and usually I can cure them in 5
minutes and because it’s quite a talent I mean I’m very lucky I got it I’m
always been asked to go on the radio and go on TV and people ring out with their
problems and it’s like you’ve got to do your magic you’ve got to cure them in
five minutes if it takes half an hour it’s not the same so one day I’m on this
radio show and this woman’s rung up and she is having such an anxiety attack I
can’t even hear what she’s saying she’s going to go power huh that’s right okay
I got five minutes to sort this girl out it’s going to hit me 22 get her to
breathe properly so I’m like okay I’ve got to do this cheesy thing but I’ve got
to I got five minutes I listen just just relax
just imagine you’ll walk in on the beach and the sand is in your toes and the
waves are laughing and she cut me right off and when I can’t do that the beach
is not available to somebody like me and I’m a bit confused now and she went oh
yeah well you’re English you don’t understand I live in a trailer in
Nebraska I’m nearly 60 years old I don’t have any money and she said it again I
have never been to the beach it is not available to someone like me and I’ll
probably never go and I’m like wow that was me I would be taking three bosses
once in my life I’m going to have the sand in my toes man I live in a country
where turquoise water and Sun was not available but I did make a point of
finding it so you know she was a great gift to me because I remember thinking
how many people have that belief it was quite early in my career and a couple of
weeks later I’m working with this why call them a school Ian Ayre this guy’s
got so much money he owns waves of London he’s a property mogul and he’s a
chronic chronic alcoholic and doctors wrong with always so many people they
can’t fix like we can’t fix him senator Marissa
we can’t do anything with him see what you can do
so in he came and he support all my clients say I’ve been to rehab I’ve done
all of this I just can’t stop drinking the Cure is not available to me and I’m
like you know it isn’t true so I do something very different I put
people in hypnosis and I count them back and I say to them when I count to three
you’ll be back at the scene that has caused you to drink and they always go
back to it and I like to do three scenes because it’s like being a detective you
take the scenes and you kind of put them together then you explain to the client
sometimes they explained to me they do my job for me oh yeah I know I see that
happen but ah now that’s why so I’ve got this guy in hypnosis and I said okay
we’re going to go back to why you drink so I counted a three where are you and
he said I’m six years old what are you feeling he said no one
loves me not a person in the world loves me okay obviously I’m speaking this up
for you now we’ve gone to another scene where are you now is that I’m seven
years old he said and my parents they don’t even like me I don’t understand I
have no one that loves me and the next scene was pretty much the same where are
you seven what’s going on I don’t understand when my parents hate me there
was nobody in the world that loves me okay now I’m Daisy trading this together
and going okay so tell me now about the love in your life and he went well I
don’t have any he said love is a bit of a foreign country to me it’s just a lien
I’ve never had love I have friends I have star I have millions of pounds but
I don’t have love and I’m 66 years old and I guess or never have love and I’m
like and you know why you drink he said no I like because that is so painful
when you’re six you can go I don’t understand my mum and dad don’t love me
but maybe I’ll try really hard and I’ll be smart and cute and kind and clever
and they love me and because it doesn’t work because it’s not the six year olds
fold and then they get to oh right I’ve tried all this stuff they don’t love me
because I’m not loved and once you buy into that that’s a real
problem because you go through the world with this belief and I want you to
remember this expression first you make your beliefs and then your beliefs make
you so be very careful about the beliefs you make because they make you and once
you made a belief guess what happens you go out into the world and the universe
matches your belief so you believe oh dogs are vicious and bite you or a
pickup of energy and guess what they are vicious invite you you believe our dogs
are wonderful they’re so loyal they’re your best friend you could when you
leave here decide ok I’m going to go out in the world and believe that people are
dishonest and rip you off and a rude and you will find that everywhere you go and
the next day you can wake up and think I’m going to believe that everyone is
kind of basically kind and good and will help me out and guess what you will find
that too and the problem is that we form beliefs we’ve been on the planet for 5
years 6 years I’m not lovable love isn’t available success isn’t available money
isn’t available even health or happiness or believing I matter or I count that’s
not available to me so I talked him and said um ok so I’m getting your reasoning
love wasn’t available and now it’s not available but you didn’t appear to own
swathe of London when you were 6 years old you didn’t inherit this Empire you
went out and got it why don’t you go out and get love and he went but I don’t
know how to do this I said well how do you know how to go out and buy all this
land and all these hotels and all these apartments so eventually I got him to
understand that it was just a belief and I said you know why you’re an alcoholic
because it’s so painful to say I’m not lovable better to go I’m not lovable cuz
I’m an alcoholic I don’t have love because I’m an alcoholic that’s easier
than saying I’m not lovable so this is what my clients tell me love isn’t
available relationships aren’t available wealth isn’t available success how
happiness praise feeling I’m significant believing I
matter even compliments are not available but the biggest one the one
that’s on top of all the ones that should be on there we’ll fix it in the
interval is love when you believe that love isn’t available is very painful and
Diana was actually a fascinating girl to work with because her mother left when
she was four she was pretty much raised by nannies and then sent to boarding
school and she had a very interesting belief love isn’t available I can find
love but I can’t keep it and because I’ve got so many amazing clients you
know limos turn up at my house bodyguards turn up at my house I was
standing in my neighbor’s garden and the others went oh I think that’s for you
and this big limo came down my street and out got four bodyguards and two
stood at the gate and one sit at my front door one came in the house and out
came this movie star Michael Denis was always cool I don’t understand why these
people could they’ve got everything I’m like yeah except I don’t feel lovable so
people think that Fame damages people actually I found the other way around
damaged people want to be famous so let’s imagine someone standing here they
do because a little kid going my parents don’t love me I don’t have parents I’m
like a foster child or a stepchild this isn’t fair how can I find a love
maker I know I become rich and famous and everyone all lobbies they go over
here and suddenly they’re rich and famous and they go yeah but you know
what they love this party they love this talent they love this voice they don’t
really love me and now they’re screwed because when they were over there
Issachar going to go over there and I’m going to be loved and I’m over here and
I don’t feel any different than I felt before I still feel unlovable and now
I’ve got nowhere to go except down and everyone knows about it
and that’s when a lot of my clients start to implode because the drive to be
famous is because they never felt lovable and when they get Fame they
still feel unloved so Diana did what a lot of people do
she gave what she wanted to give do you know the percentage of nurses that come
from dysfunctional families is astonishing
it really is a calling they give what they most want to get back not all of
them of course but a huge proportion and Diana could make everyone love her she
was magnetic she was charming but she never ever believed that she was worthy
of love and the only person who wasn’t captivated and madly in love with Diana
was Diana she didn’t think she was lovable and Marilyn Monroe was very
interesting someone asked me that if I worked with her I’m like no I’m old
enough to worked with Marilyn Monroe but nevertheless I know an awful lot about
Marilyn Monroe because she was a classic example she was born and she was
fostered immediately her her parents didn’t want her mother gave her up
father didn’t want to know and she went into the foster system and when she was
two-and-a-half she lived with a foster mother who had her own child also two
and a half and of course her own son would go mama mama mama and Marilyn
started to go mama mama mama and the foster woman no no you mustn’t call me
mama I’m not your mama you can call me auntie and every time they went to a
park or a playground Marilyn would go there’s a mama there’s a mama there’s a
mama because she knew she didn’t have one she felt completely different and
she kind of was already forming this belief that she was never going to have
the love that other people had and she went through life with an interesting
belief that love is available for a little while because she would get a bit
of love in the foster care then she get moved and when she’s married Arthur
Miller she was planning her divorce on the day she got married to him because
of her belief that I’m not really lovable I can get it I can’t keep it and
her shrink could settle on it in Marilyn what is going on with you no I just seen
this footage of you dancing him out of all these G eyes you’ve sewn into this
dress everything’s falling out and you have no underwear on what is that about
and I’m going to quote what she said word for word she said
I need everyone to love me I must belong to the whole world because I have never
belonged to anyone or anything in my whole life
and I fear that I never ever will and that is a word-for-word quote I need the
whole world to love me I must belong I’ve never belonged to anyone or
anything and that is a real problem with feeling unlovable that you kind of pick
it up and then it kind of radiates out from you and people pick up your beliefs
so I was asked to work with Amy Winehouse and I really wanted to work
with her she was quite a fascinating girl in preparation for my working with
her I read up a lot about her I already knew Amy is an alcoholic
Amy is a drug addict amy is anorexic and bulimic fears between the two amy has
depression and amy is addicted to really damaged men they’re going to bring her
down and she didn’t turn up for any appointment and I only ever spoke to her
on the phone and I said why didn’t you turn out and she said what’s the point
I’m damaged beyond repair forgive me if I swear she said I’m complete you can’t
help me no one can help me and the problem with Amy is that she did go into
rehab and get clean many times and she could give up drugs and she could give
up alcohol and she could for period stop being anorexic but she could not give up
this belief that being normal was not available to her you know she never
wrote happy song she wrote back to black my tears dry on their own love is a
losing game listen to those lyrics it’s so tragic even being loved I’m going to
lose it love and then she wrote I told you I’m trouble you know I’m no good and
she really believed that and if you listen to Back to Black she’s talking to
her boyfriend and she said you know you go back to your old girlfriend you go
back to normality and me I go back to black I go back to darkness I go back to
depression I go back to being so abnormal
and there’s nothing normal available and I know that it was that belief that
killed her it wasn’t drugs it was the belief that normality is not available
of course beyond that belief is the real belief I’m not lovable and see Whitney
Houston she was the same when she was 16 or 17 her record label pushed her as
this god-fearing deeply religious pure wholesome girl that was okay but she was
already a drug addict and she was already being told you must not let
anyone know your real sexually hide that you know pretend you’re madly in love
with Bobby Brown and live a lie and she did and it was so abnormal and she too
had this belief normality that’s not available to me and then her poor little
daughter was brought up in a house where normality was not available Saira talk
to you today about your beliefs and I want you to think about what you think
is not available to you who here be brave I’m not going to
embarrass anyone it’s not my thing who here might just have a belief that
real wonderful lasting love is not available to them put your hand up who
here might have a belief that being really really successful and keeping
that success going is not available to them who believes that money making
money keeping money not available who believes that knowing they are deeply
significant they really matter they’re here for a purpose they have an
extraordinary gift who thinks no that’s not available to me
okay and who you might believe that even
being healthy isn’t available to them so you know someone told you this no one
comes into the world a baby is born and the first six minutes that everyone
looks at them the doctor the nurses the midwives they’re too gold oh look at me
bit fat today my stomach sticks out babies love being looked at and if you
take your baby home and shut it in a cupboard what’s going to happen it will
scream for days because its belief is someone’s going to come and look after
me because I’m so cool all my needs are met in the womb so they’re going to be
there out of the womb and people are going to take care of me because I’m
lovable and then someone somewhere tells you the opposite and you would have
think who is that person what do they know you know even doctors tell people
stuff that’s wrong I have the greatest respect for doctors but I’ve met them in
my time that you really want to shake so it has come I’ve got to see this woman
who is suicidally depressed and her doctor said I don’t know how to do with
this woman anymore can you see her and she told me something that really
startled me she said every time I hear of someone who’s got terminal cancer I’m
so jealous I wish I could get terminal cancer and die that would be my greatest
dream because people terminal terminal cancer can die they don’t have to feel
guilty said my mom killed herself my dad was a broken man and I married someone
just like my dad and I really want to kill myself but it’s going to break my
husband’s heart it’s going to break my dad’s heart
so I’m cursed to live this miserable life by the depression that cannot be
cured and you know what she just said the Cure is not available to me and I’m
like why do you think that you went well it’s genetic my mother killed herself
with genetic depression my grandmother had it I’ve got it
there is no cure and I’m like actually there is a cure and guess what you’re in
the right place to have the cure I have cured hundreds of people thousands
probably I might have exaggerated to make her better of suicidal depression
and since you’re in my office and I’m going to hypnotize you why didn’t you
let me cure you she went okay I said why I’m going to put you in
hypnosis we’re going to go back to the cause of the depression and so we went
back to scenes I knew we’d go back to the mother’s killed herself and we went
back to her mother’s funeral and she didn’t cry
I didn’t want to cry because you know my dad and was broken and I realized
straight away because every scene was her being a good girl her being perfect
and I so what she did is she decided to be a people pleaser she really wanted to
help out her dad she never cried she never complained she never asked for
anything I went you know what you don’t actually have depression you have
repression and suppression because you have no voice you don’t open your mouth
and say what’s going wrong she married so I shouldn’t even love
because he he kind of loved her didn’t want to hurt his feelings and now she’s
got a mother-in-law who I swear is the bitch from hell I said god I’ve heard of
some mother-in-law’s in my time but this one she’s probably like the worst
mother-in-law I’ve ever heard of and you got to stand up shy can’t I said you got
to stand up to her and say get out of my house and when you’re at home house and
she says those horrible things get up and leave and if your husband doesn’t
come with you take the car leave him there but do not allow her to diminish
you and she said I don’t know what to do like okay so I got her in hypnosis
you’re gonna have to forgive me for swearing now but it was very relevant I
said okay you’re in hypnosis I want you to imagine your mother-in-law is in
front of you and I want you to say to her and she went I can’t possibly say
that I could never say that it you can you can say it so she kind of thought
about you attentively went off she was terribly posh and I’m like okay so again
so she went off not like necessarily like in all of a sudden she went bitch
get out of my house and she went it was really cool and she went oh my
this feels rather marvelous do it again she did it again and she went oh this is
magnificent do it again I said you know the reason I’m making you do this is
because you’ve come into this room with a belief that you have no voice and you
can’t express yourself because that’s what you believe when you were seven and
you had every right to believe that at seven but you’ve done what many people
do you’ve kept the belief going you see if you’d met Diana if you’d met Marilyn
if you’d met even Amy in the room was a beautiful woman but really what was in
the room was an absolutely damaged child and these women kind of have this
damaged child in them and they are the damaged child more than the beautiful
woman and I said look when you were six you had no power no options but you’re
46 you want to leave that little girl behind with no voice and find your voice
so when you go home today all the way I want you to keep safe and so she had on
a twin set and pearls and Hermes bag a little Hermes scarf and I watched to
walk off my husband you get out of my house
and she wrote to me about three months later and said I must tell you something
when I left your office I hated you should I could not believe what you made
me say and what you made me do should I rather affronted actually should but I
have to tell you in the last few months I’ve lost 36 pounds my mother-in-law
doesn’t bother me at all I’m not depressed and I remember what
you said repressed and suppressed and I’m not those either I want to tell you
I don’t hate you anymore in fact I rather adore you now and I’ve been
telling all my friends about you three years later she telephoned me she went
I want to tell you something extraordinary it just happened to me
said I got a letter from my doctor saying you must come in urgently
urgently we need to see you so she went in thinking what’s gone on and her
doctor sat across the table and when you’re not filling your prescription for
antidepressants what is going on as she went well I haven’t been depressed for
three years I’ve had therapy with that Marissa Pierre didn’t really say that
and I’m no longer depressed and he went it will come back you have genetic
depression it will come back you’re going to have it all your life and you
need to take medication all your life and that previously suppressed repressed
woman went do you know doctor what is not coming back me to your office I will
never come back here again Yeah right on you will never be my
doctor again how dare you tell me that and she left and I love that because
just because he was a doctor and he told her that that didn’t mean it was true
you see whatever you tell your mind it will believe so let me do something with
you I want you to just put your arms out in front of you as if you’re holding
like reins or the handlebars of a bike just put out your hands and close your
eyes and I want you to imagine to tell yourself in your left hand you are
holding an enormous red fire bucket and it’s filled with 60 pounds of sand and
it’s getting heavier and heavier and heavier in your left arm you’re holding
a bucket of sand and it is so heavy you can feel the way right up into your
shoulder you can feel it in your elbow you can feel it in your wrist your left
arm is getting heavier and heavier and heavier the harder you try to keep your
left arm up the heavier it’s becoming and in your right arm you’re holding a
huge helium filled balloon a big blue balloon it’s bigger than you full of
helium completely weightless and now your right arm is floating and moving
and pulling and lifting and traveling up and the harder you try to push that
right arm down the more it feels as if you are trying to push a balloon
underwater it just insists on springing up lifting up traveling up getting
lighter and lighter and lighter and all the time your left arm is getting
heavier and heavier and the harder you try to lift up your left arm the more it
feels like it’s been encased in concrete and the harder you try to push your
right arm down the more it feels like it’s attached to a pulley that is
pulling it up and just notice one arm is way down one arm is weightless
because of a belief I just gave you it’s a belief so keep your arms where they
are open your eyes and look around the room see beliefs are real beliefs are
things so let’s do another one really quickly thank you I won’t you thank you
thank you thank you I want you to put your hand up by your mouth right now I
want you to imagine you’re holding in your mouth a big fat juicy Costa Rica
lemon and you can breathe it in and nothing smells quite like that wonderful
lemon smell and you can feel that waxy lemonis smell it feel it
open your mouth cram that lemon in to shove that lemon into your mouth that’s
sucking it and chewing it and biting it sucker all the flesh swirl it around and
what is happening is of course you are reacting to a thought not a good thought
not a bad thought and neutral thought but you see we react to thoughts and we
don’t upgrade our thoughts enough and time and time again I go back to people
who come up with beliefs they made we’ve been on the planet for five years they
made a belief I’m not good enough there’s never going to be enough money
I’m not pretty or handsome or smart or strong no one’s interested in me and we
keep those beliefs for no other reason then they’re familiar so I sat in a
doctor’s office when I was in my twenties and he said to me you will
never have a baby you must accept you are infertile you can’t have children
but even in my twenties I was already very far advanced in hypnosis and I said
I’m going to stop you there because I’m not letting that in so I’m
just going to leave and I don’t want to hear anything you have to say because I
know I have a baby and actually I got pregnant really easily
and then having been told that having a baby was not available to me now I’ve
got new things well you’re never gonna have a normal pregnancy you’ll probably
lose the baby you know if you carry it to full term it will have all kinds of
things wrong with it because I was diagnosed with an illness that turned
out I never even had and they said yeah well the baby is going to have the same
illness that I actually never had ever but I seem to have a great pregnancy
they tell me my baby were born under 4 pounds and suddenly out she was seven
and a half pounds and I knew that I was having a baby was available to me having
a perfect baby was available because I was going to make it available and then
I went off for my pre-birth talk and they said what kind of birth are you
having um like hypnosis are like are you crazy
you’re going to have a baby under hypnosis this is a nurse saying to be do
you know giving birth is like sitting on a stove with a gas ring turned on it’s
agony you can’t have a baby under hypnosis I’m like well what do you think
people in Africa do they went oh well they’ve got different shape pelvises
that’s how they give birth in a field I’m like okay what about people in India
they don’t seem to have different shaped pelvises last time I looked well you
can’t have a baby under hypnosis I’m like well I’m actually doing a recording
for the BBC so and they come to record we’re having a baby under hypnosis I’m
pretty think much think I am anyway I had an amazing birth
I had the BBC and the delivery I had my mom my stepdad my friends the baby’s dad
at a party in there and I had my baby really easily I just pushed her out of
so simple fact I felt like I’ve been out and bought her because I went to the
hospital gave birth my little baby in like two hours and then went up on the
ward and it was like wow I just feel like I’ve been to a store and got this
amazing gorgeous thing anyway woke up the next day in England we have Ward’s
who don’t really have private rooms in maternity hospitals and the nurses were
coming around giving everyone a box of Kleenex I’m like what’s that for she
went that is for the post to depression everybody gets that on day
three on day three the whole ward is crying and weeping it’s okay just the
hormones when you give birth your body starts to lose all the hormones and then
you get postnatal depression I went oh no no no no I’m actually having
postnatal euphoria I’m having it right now and I’m going to keep having it for
weeks to come and they looked at me like I was nuts I said yeah I actually
haven’t signed up for postnatal depression I have to find out for
postnatal euphoria and since she told me the waters going to be a sea of weeping
and crisis you know I get in my office everyday weeping wailing crying I don’t
really need it on my first day with a baby so I’m just going to go home so I
got my little babe you got attacks he went home and I didn’t realize because
my partner had the house keys that I was locked out of a house and we were not
having a great relationship even know where he was I shouldn’t care I have to
say I was so in love with my baby he wasn’t important but I couldn’t get in
my house but I had my car keys so I put my little newborn baby in the car and I
rang my mother said mama are going to come and stay with you but she was
delighted and I drove to Cambridge in older when you have a baby you have to
have a midwife come every day for 10 days to check out you and the baby it’s
kind of the law and it’s a good thing and if you don’t have it they don’t like
that so I had to ring London Midwife and go look I’m not in London I’m in
Cambridge they can send me a Cambridge Midwife so now my daughter’s two days
old I’ve gone to my mum’s and I’m wheeling her out in a little push chair
and I’ve just come back to the house as the Midwife arrives and she goes why are
you out I’m like pardon should why you out I’m like well it’s a nice day she
went no but you should be in bed you should be in bed for a week and your
baby should be in bed for a week because of all the germs and I’m like well what
do we ruin they’ve got seven kids do they go to bed for a week I don’t think
so and you know I spent a lot of time in Africa and I don’t see people going to
bed for a week with a newborn baby they just like know you you really should go
to bed for a week and then she said to me anyway
a how did you get here and I said I drove my car doin oh do you not know
about pregnancy brain I’m like fortunately I have no idea about
pregnancy brain I know they’re going to tell me what it is and she said yes when
you’ve given birth you can’t concentrate you can’t focus you can’t do anything
normally is that just as well I didn’t know that when I took an hour and a half
drive down the motorway I didn’t have pregnancy brain I didn’t have postnatal
depression and it really annoyed me that they told me that was available to me
so now I’m raising this great little kid that I’ve been told I can’t have and I’m
reading this report about how girls who are adopted if their adoptive mother
walks on asking oh my god I’ve got my period or so painful all these cramps
are killing me off I need to take to my bed they have the same kind of periods
normally not always of course this was an exception and adoptive girls whose
mother said got my period I’m off to play tennis now have very different
periods to see my little daughter he’s five and she’s going to stay with my mum
and she came back and she started wooden house going I’ve got my tension headache
I’ve got my anxiety and I’m like baby five Europe don’t have tension headaches
or anxiety that is grandmother’s stuff it’s not yours and so we go to my mum’s
a lot one day she said to her my mom grandmother what are all these pills for
mama goes well that one’s for my legs and that’s for my head and that’s for
the anger that’s for my heart that’s my bowels my little girl goes but grandma
had I or no where to go and now I’ve got to prep my daughter cuz every time she
goes to my mum’s she was going on a school trip and she came back and my
mother gave a little pass on she gave her anti-acids for after dinner
she gave a travel sickness travel perhaps ours would go on the coach and
she gave her altitude tablets case they went somewhere high
and I’m saying you know baby we don’t do pills you and me we’re not sick and she
went but mummy is grandma’s sick I said no darling grandma’s not sick grandma’s
a hypochondriac those people they’re not sick but they love taking pills because
all my life my mother her house is like she’s lovely but her house is like a
farms you want a drug she’s going to have it in her cupboard and when I grew
up I thought that is never ever going to be available to me I’m going to be fit
and healthy and I sometimes think I became a therapist and cured people
because I looked at this madness of the pills and the hospital trips every day
so I’ve said to my little girl grandmother’s not sick but she’s a
hypochondriac and you know when you go to stay with grandmother when you get in
the car do not let her give you pills after dinner do not hurt to give you
pills so at this big family dinner and my mother she’s got this sink rate and
she puts out the dessert she brings out the anti acids simultaneously and my
little girl looked at my uncle and she said you know my grandmother’s
nymphomaniac mummy said that’s why she takes pills but my mom is not a
nymphomaniac and we don’t take pills I’m like no baby no hypochondriac the
correction didn’t please my mum so I want you all to close your eyes
and I want you to imagine you’re holding in your arms you you the day you’ve just
been born you’re this beautiful perfect brand-new baby you just came out of a
womb where everything was available 24 hours a day you got food you got heat
was always 75 degrees in there all your needs were met and you’ve just been born
I want you to think that looked too old he’s just been born what should be
available that child is masses and masses of love but you know that’s often
not the case my mum told me that when she had me she was really upset because
I was supposed to be someone else’s baby my dad’s best friend does it happen
and years later on resuming hypnosis I felt that I felt that disappointment but
it didn’t matter because that was just the beginning that’s not my life so I
want you to imagine you’ve got this little baby in your arms and I want you
to think what do you want to be available to that child do you want love
to be available of course what did you want the person holding you as a newborn
to say and I’m going to tell you and you’re going to repeat it out loud and I
want to hear you I want to say to that little baby Wow look at you Wow look at
you repeat it Wow look at you you are the most perfect thing in the world you’re so beautiful you’re so gorgeous
you are completely lovable and when you grow up you’re going to find so much
love because love is available to you and it always will be success is available to you
you matter your significant you have a gift and you’re meant to be here keep
looking at that little baby and just filling it up with love and praise you
know I see a lot of clients of infertility and although I have a really
high success rate I have a few clients who would sell their house to be parents
and there’s no doubt they would be amazing parents and it doesn’t happen
they never get to have that baby that they would be phenomenal at raising and
I see other people who drag their kids are and really do not deserve to be
parents and I’ve often tried to work that out here’s these people who be
amazing parents and negative baby and these people who are dreadful parents
you have three and the only way I could ever work it out is to believe that we
come through our parents we don’t come from them the universe creates as in the
universe it creates us will support us in everything that we do particularly in
believing that we are lovable that everything is available so you can open
your eyes and I want you to think about that one person would be an awesome
parent and they don’t get the baby the other person is a horrendous parent and
they do and how can you make sense of that you can’t except by deciding the
universe created you you come through your parents you don’t come from them
you come through them and the universe that created you and that gave you all
your amazing talents will support you in everything everything that you want